DR. PATRICIA A. FARRELL

“You always hurt the one you love, the one you shouldn’t hurt at all,” the old song flows. In it may be more truth than we’d like to believe. Do we hurt the ones we love, and, if we do, why might that be? Are we selfish, thin-skinned, or blind to our lack of give-and-take in relationships? It could be a bit of all of it, and science has been looking at relationships and what the brain reveals about them. The brain knows all Can we know if someone is genuinely in love with ano

Valentine's Day is fast approaching and visions of chocolates, satin hearts, Frederick's of Hollywood outfits and special trips or dinners are filling the pages of the internet, magazines and newspapers. The expression, "The heart wants what the heart wants" comes to mind but I wonder if it does. What does the heart want and is it love, sex or charity? Then, of course, there's the matter of the "St. Valentine's Day Massacre," but that will not be discussed here. Not everyone

Thinking about charity you probably already have an ingrained bias that translates into "giving" and giving means contributing money. You have it all wrong. Breaking the word down into its most miniscule elements indicates it comes from a variety of words which mean love of others, the Greek word agape, in fact, means "love" of others. Money or giving was never specifically inherent in the translations; as we find in the Japanese language, it is understood rather than spelled